Each companion has their own backstory and motivations, and in order to woo and bed them, you’ll have to make choices that align with their own moral compass and goals. Luckily, there isn’t a lot of grey morality in their preferences, meaning choices aren’t as obtuse as they could be.
At the time of writing, during the Early Access period of Baldur’s Gate 3, with only the game’s first act available, there are six romance options for you to choose from. Read on to learn more about your options, how to recruit them, and how to woo them.
Astarion
A high-elf rogue vampire, Astarion’s noble background makes him less difficult to woo than some of the other companions. He can be recruited in Chapter 1, where he can be found on the beach.
You’ll need to approve of his bloodsucking habits and choose some distinctly cruel and debauched actions to garner favor with him.
As one might expect from someone with Astarion’s background, he prefers you deal with things in a more chaotic fashion, and prefers you keep a tadpole intact.
Gale
Gale may be a powerful wizard, but the Netherese Destruction Orb in his chest serves as a reminder that time is of the essence. Maybe you’ll be able to deal with it on your travels, rather than exploding along with him. He can be recruited at the waypoint above the Nautilus wreckage.
This is one romance option that prefers you be kind rather than cruel, particularly in the Druid Grove. His opinion of you will improve with most kind actions you perform.
Lae’zel
You’ll have to recruit Lae’zel again after the prologue. She can be found near the Cathedral Ruins, though you must set her free to have her as a companion again.
True to her Githyanki heritage, Lae’zel prefers you handle things with an iron fist. You’ll have to be less than kind, in general, to garner favor with Lae’zel, and you’ll have to make disagreeing with Shadowheart your new hobby if you want her to pay you any mind.
Minthara
The least obvious romance option and companion in the first act of Baldur’s Gate 3, Minthara requires you take a slightly different path through the Druid Drove: you have to kill everyone in the city. This requires you to start the Rescue the Refugees quest, then go to the goblin camp to start a raid on Druid Grove.
Once you’ve done the deed and you speak to her at camp, you’ll have to either search for her desires or search her fears. Failure to successfully perform either of these will cause her to attack you.
Shadowheart
Those not keen on Lae’zel’s lack of compassion may find Shadowheart more to their liking, as the half-elf is far less inclined toward violence and does not look down on you for choosing the kinder options on your travels. She can be recruited at the Dank Crypt right after the prologue.
Because of their opposing views, agreeing with Lae’zel on any matter will cause you to lose favor with Shadowheart.
Wyll
You can recruit Wyll during the Removing the Parasite quest in chapter one, but he’ll only stay with you if you refuse to side with the goblins. Not a bad deal.
Like Shadowheart, Wyll prefers the people in his company be compassionate, and you will lose favor with him if you make less-than-savor choices or are particularly nasty.
Baldur’s Gate 3 isn’t finished yet, but there’s plenty of gameplay to be had in the game’s first act and. Check out our many other Baldur’s Gate 3 guides, including comprehensive guides to building each class optimally.
